Tag: guilt

I’m the only parent struggling right now.  Everyone else seems to be fine.  Parenting is such a challenge and I’m part of the minority of people who feel this way.  Why don’t my children behave like other peoples’ children?  If I told people how I really feel, what would they think of me? How often […]
Two things happened today that have focused my thoughts on how much we learn from trial and error.  First, my daughter and her rocket.  It took her ages to build.  She glued two cardboard toilet paper rolls together, formed a cone for the top out of paper and added some windows and foil embellishments.  After […]
Several days ago one of my children hurt another child’s feelings.  At school she did something that was unkind and it upset another child, someone she actually really likes.  When I found out what she’d done, I felt a mixture of feelings: sadness, consternation, frustration and yes, shame.  I knew that her behaviour was a […]
I knew something was up when I could hear water rushing upstairs.  I wondered whether Aidan had turned on the taps in the bathtub, and at worst, I thought I would have to go upstairs to turn them off and bring him downstairs.  What did I find?  He’d managed to plug the sink with a […]
Is there such thing as a perfect parent?  In my mind, I can see the sort of mother I’d love to be– fun, patient and kind.  A good listener, a problem-solver, a supportive navigator for my children on the path of life.  Realistically, I am often short-tempered, stressed from juggling too many things and at […]
Since becoming a mother, I cannot count the number of times people have said this to me.  “Don’t be so hard on yourself” they say, when I say how I wish I could be more patient with my children, or whatever.  Usually this is followed by, “You’re a great mother!”  Well-intentioned people who love me […]
  At the moment the press is covering the release of a new book for mothers by a popular parenting ‘guru.’  According to the press reports, the author encourages mothers to have a date night out or an afternoon together within four to six weeks after the birth of their baby.  Leave the baby with […]